Reclusive or Selective: The Semantic Game

I’ve told myself that I am not becoming reclusive; I am just more selective about what I do. I am not sure if I am just playing a semantic game with myself, but I am sure that my activities are changing.  I no longer log on to Facebook daily, but I do try to check in at least weekly to keep up with the people I talk to via messages.  I just don’t see much value in all the posts, seems like people put the silliest stuff on there.  I mean I guess it’s important to someone what you had for dinner, just not so much to me.  I also don’t tweet, don’t Pin anything nor am I linked in to anyone.  I really don’t spend that much time surfing any more either.  If there is something I need or want to know, I can usually find it with a quick search, read the articles and be done in fifteen or twenty minutes.   I also don’t go out as much as I used to.  I am quite content to stay in my house with my fur-kids. And they seem to get quite upset when I leave them.  Actually, it is getting hard to get me out of my house, not because I am afraid to leave, rather because I am just so comfortable here.  And I am always concerned that I will have to leave because of pain and cause disruption in the activity.  This causes me to stay home a lot also.

I did go “out” over this past weekend, however, and it was an interesting experience.  The “plan” was to go to a street dance that was a local fundraiser for the downtown district where I live.  Of course it was raining a lot, so they moved the party inside.  And they eliminated all the food vendors.  That meant going out to dinner, which we did and it was lovely!  The food was great, the company wonderful and the conversation fun.  Then to the “club” where the party was, which pointed out to me that it had been a long time since I have been in a club and I am getting old.  Wow, was it loud in there!  It didn’t take me long to re-acclimate myself and I found myself loving it! One of my favorite things to do is to “people watch” and there was the perfect spot above the main floor to do just that.  And the band, who were very good, was in the other room so they weren’t so loud! As a bonus, I had a fascinating conversation about a myriad of topics with a very cool woman.  I am glad that despite my desire to stay home, I went and had a great time. I was not able to complete the evening this weekend, as I came home early due to “wearing out,” but the going out was a good thing.

Being selective about what I do is a good thing, and I will continue.  Unfortunately, my stamina is not what it was and I cannot do all the things I’d like.  So I will have to make choices just like everyone else, even if mine are a little more limited.  Looking at the possibilities as though there are possibilities will make a huge difference in my choices.  

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8 thoughts on “Reclusive or Selective: The Semantic Game

  1. stevezilla1961

    Well, now I feel kinda unimportant in your life. While I don’t tweet my meals, or message my bowel movements or anything, I do tend to ramble on about next to useless stuff. Maybe I need to be more “selective”!!!

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    1. praw27 Post author

      No, my friend, I find your that blogs are not rambling at all. I quite like them! My selectiveness is tied much more to “in person contact” which is where I tend to become reclusive. You just keep on being you! I love that about you!

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      1. stevezilla1961

        Well, I’ll try to be me. But if I get a chance to be either Batman or Star-Lord (from Guardians of the Galaxy), I’m gonna give it a shot! So, as far as in person goes, if you see me someday, will you say hi? Give me a hug? Or throw old vegetables at me?

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      2. praw27 Post author

        Well….I suppose it would be a great big HI with a big HUG! No vegetable throwing…I can’t even throw like a girl anymore, so embarrassing! And since I’ve no idea who Star-Lord is, would you go for Batman, at least then I’ll know who to look for if I can’t find Stevezilla! 🙂

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    1. praw27 Post author

      Fawn, I am so honored that you have recognized me for this award, and I graciously accept. I will work on this post today. Thanks for giving my the courage to continue to write my truth. Hugs, Phyl

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  2. therockstaranthropologist

    “I’ve told myself that I am not becoming reclusive; I am just more selective about what I do.” I really like this perspective. I am selective as well. I don’t think there is anything wrong with curating my daily experience, at least when it comes to going out.

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    1. praw27 Post author

      I totally agree! I do tend to lean to the reclusive side and have to watch it. The selective nature of going out has been liberating in many ways, however. Now when I go, I really enjoy what I do.

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